Understanding Relationships pt. 4
2. VISIONARY
To be visionary is beyond having positive ideas of the future. Many people have all kinds of balloon ideas about the future, that doesn't make them visionary.
To be visionary is to have a clear and compelling picture of the future.
What some people call vision is not compelling because it is vague. They are not even inspired by it. Such people are empty talkers.
If you want to build relationships that last, follow the path of those that have vision. By doing this, you will be purchasing tomorrow. It was Dr. Olumide Emmanuel that said, "The future is cheap if you buy it today." Don't just appear in people's future and expect to have a stake if you ignored them when they were small.
Some of our parents literally threw away gold mines simply by ignoring someone that seemed poor when they were younger. Only to turn on the television many years later and the same person they despised was now the governor of the state.
We have heard this kind of story again and again but the amazing thing is that most of us are yet to learn the lesson. We are still driven by immediate rewards, emotions and peer pressure.
It is sad when you have to mortgage your future because of your inability to recognise the right people to invest your time with.
Stay with visionary people. They will remain relevant even when others fall away. Their vision might not speak at the beginning, but it will surely speak in due time. Your reward for staying will be a share in that vision such that, even if you failed in your own vision you will still be sustained.
3. COMMITMENT TO PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION
Someone who is not committed to the transformation of the mind has already settled for mediocrity. They will always live in the past. These kinds of people are an embodiment of two dangerous traits, ignorance and arrogance. Just one of their traits is enough to destroy a man; however, combining the two of them is a total knockout in life and destiny.
The statement that says, "The day you stop learning you start dying" is not a cliché. Many people have remained small in life because they won't develop their minds. They assume that they know everything. And before long, they fade away without a trace.
Some of them graduate from school and vow never to read anything again not even a signboard and their ignorant friends also affirm this poisonous statement. Then they struggle in the job market for years because no one would employ such a liability. Except you are also in this category, but if you want to make quality progress in life then avoid these set of people.
The transformation of the mind is a continuous process and it is not a trait of small minded people.
4. DILIGENCE
If you associate with a lazy person you will soon learn his ways. Diligence is the determination and perseverance when doing anything. Many people give up easily. They are not committed to their commitments. They lack the willpower to support what they say with action. These sets of people have a tendency to destroy anything.
Imagine a poultry manager that has to feed his birds several times in a day but lacks the diligence to do so. Think of a mother that has no commitment in nursing her baby. Consider a husband that is not committed to his wife or a student that has no diligence in his study.
Lack of diligence is a sure recipe for failure. Here are a few ways to identify such people:
Talk without action: They are full of empty talks. They always have a plan of something they want to do but they are never found doing anything about their plans.
Today they plan to start a business, tomorrow they plan to enroll for a course, the next day they plan to subscribe for mentoring. Just plans here and there without any action. If you ask them when they are finally going to take action, it is always tomorrow, next month, or next year,
All they have is plans. Even if they eventually start taking action, the life span of their pursuit is so small that it is almost unnoticeable.
Full of excuses: These sets of people have a Master's degree at giving excuses. They can literally give excuse for anything.
A diligent person is determined to succeed. He is not derailed by circumstances. Some call it grit, the willingness to go the extra mile in pursuance of your goals. The making of anything requires a level of horse power.
Staying power is a trait to look for in someone before becoming their friend. How hard working are they? How easy do they give up? How far are they willing to go to create the future they desire? These and more are questions you must ask when considering the diligence quotient of an individual. Being friends with someone that does not have this quality will greatly undermine your future.
Lack of personal discipline: I love the definition that says discipline is a set of rules that regulate behaviour.
Most acclaimed adults have no form of discipline. They have no set of rules that guide their actions. They operate by freestyle; anything goes. There is no form of wisdom that sets the boundary of their life. One day they are acting in a particular way, the next day you see them going in the opposite direction. You will almost think they are schizophrenic.
The worst part is that you can't seem to convince them to do otherwise; they always have sufficient reasons to justify whatever they do. Yet, their life remains stagnant.
Even if you put them in an organized system you will have to beat them into shape before they make the right adjustments. This kind of people cannot maintain a clean environment for an hour. You have to monitor and micromanage them otherwise they will turn everything upside-down in no time.
This doesn't mean they are bad people, however if you have a destination that compels you to go the extra mile and put in extra effort then you need to avoid this kind of people. You can love them, wish them well but think again before building a relationship with.
Enough has been said about your relationship, now the choice is yours to make.
Four Things Not To Do In a Relationship
1. Don't criticize
2. Don't condemn
3. Don't complain
4. Don't confront in anger
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